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Here’s a scenario you might be familiar with: you ask someone out on a date. You get excited and plan everything to the last detail because you like this person. The day of the date comes; you’re already dressed up. You suddenly receive a text from your date. He or she is cancelling because of something important. Now, you have to deal with feelings of being stood up.

Being Stood Up Does Not Feel Good But Here’s A Way To Deal With It

As much as we would want to avoid this situation from happening (again), we have no control over what our date does. Yes, it is absolutely heartbreaking to know that your date isn’t coming when you’ve prepared and have been looking forward to your time together. Here are some ways on how you can deal with the aching feeling of being stood up:

1. Wait For An Explanation

Most of us always get ahead of ourselves. Maybe your date has a valid reason for standing you up. Before jumping to conclusions like, “Oh, she’s not into me” or “he doesn’t find me pretty”, wait for your date’s apology and explanation the day after. For all you know, your date could have been facing a real emergency.

2. Examine The Situation

So let’s put things into perspective. Ask yourself why you’re upset. You could say that you saw something in the person and that the date could have turned into a serious relationship. Those are all acceptable reasons but was your date really worth your thoughts?

We ask because you should be reading in between the lines. What message is your date sending because he or she cancelled at the last minute?

The person who stood you up clearly does not respect your time. If he or she has a valid reason, has apologized for the incident, and has promised to make it up, you probably have a keeper. But, if the situation is the opposite, you have to condition your mind in thinking that the person you were so fond of was probably not the one for you.

3. Change Your Perspective

This is a follow up to the second item on this list. You have to change your perspective on the situation. If the person was as great as you thought, why didn’t he or she contact you and apologize? Think about it. If the person respected your time and cared for the planning you’ve put into your date, he or she is going to make it up to you.

Being stood up sucks, but the person who stood you up might have just done you a favor by saving you from future disappointments. For more dating and relationship tips, check out the rest of our blog posts.