It doesn’t matter if you are new to online dating or just haven’t been making any kind of progress in the cyber dating realm, you must know: creating a good start is crucial for your online relationship. When it comes to love, we always want to be spontaneous, but it is crucial you prepare yourself for that spontaneity, no matter how unromantic that sounds. So, what should you pay attention to in order to have a successful start?
The Base Every Online Relationship Is Built On
First of all, you need strong conversation starters. A lot of people make the mistake of thinking a simple “Hi, how are you?” will be enough. How would you answer that question? Likely with a “Fine, thank you. How are you?” – and the conversation ends there. What you want to do is be creative, read the profile of everyone you want to write to and put together a letter based on what you found you have in common or what just fascinates you. Everybody wants to feel special, so when person noticed you’ve payed attention to their profile, you are off to a great start, for sure.
Secondly, if you are looking to date outside your country, then paying attention to the differences is very important. That is yet another factor lot of people forget to pay attention to. What are the values in certain cultures? What religion the person you are talking to practices? Or maybe they are atheist and that is a problem for you?
Keeping It Light
When you send a letter, and then receive a response, and you are probably going to use a live chat, make sure that the early topics of conversation are light. Ask lots of questions, everything you’d like to know about her hobbies, interests, job, ambitions. Having found out which country she lives in, do some research about its history, customs and important news. It is an great way to learn something new as well as show your potential match that you have a sincere interest in her, and keep the conversation going.
Also, make sure to let her know about yourself and your thoughts on life. Explain where you grew up, list your hobbies and plans you have for the future. When you are in conversation with someone you think you could build a online relationship with, find out her plans for the future are as well. Do they match your plans? It is very important to make it clear if you are after the same goal.
Once the online relationship has taken off, don’t start rushing. That is another impulse move a lot of online daters make – they find someone attractive, and once things just start to go smoothly, they want to become exclusive too soon. Make sure you take enough of time to get truly to know the other person before you get serious.